Being a high value and confident woman is a breed of its own amongst women. For some ladies, it is a natural skill or art form. For others, it takes a lot of learning, practicing and igniting.
Confidence does reside within us, it just may take a little bit of work to ignite the fire a bit. Perhaps we need to create more than we have.
I created this little guide with the knowledge I have learned on my own throughout the years in trying to advance myself to another level above.
For some inspiration to igniting your inner high value woman and confident woman, here are some qualities and key traits of this kind of gal.
Let’s take a look at these qualities in learning how to be a high value, confident woman.
1. She Evolves
The high value and confident woman is always evolving. She is always learning, creating – and becoming a better person.
If the confidant woman is GOOD at a skill, she will learn to MASTER it.
It doesn’t have to be drastic, just overcoming small challenges in a day can build the confidant woman so beautifully. It keeps her rooted and strong.
Small Example Skill: She can cook. She can whip up a great simple chicken dinner.
Up-Level Evolving: She will learn to create a fancy restaurant quality dinner & sides to be able to impress either a friend, a lover, or herself once in a special while.
Just a little admit: That cooking example was about me. I can now confidently cook a delicious meal. For someone who was afraid to boil water when I began cooking…It’s quite impressive {to myself} when I can confidently do something I didn’t quite think I was good at.
2. She Up-Levels Each Compartment of Hers
Becoming more organized, she sees each compartment in life, actually views it, and gives it purpose. We have many compartments in life.
Depending on each lady, her interests, her values & priorities and how she views her life, the compartments can be things such as;
- Family & Friends
- Relationships
- Car & Home
- Self Care
- Cooking / Diet
- Hobbies
Or she may have her life organized differently and view them as something like;
- Home life
- Work life
- Payments / Responsibilities
- Fun & Time for self
How ever detailed or generalized or prioritized your compartments are, make sure to really LOOK at them. What could improve? What do you desire?
Be aware of this and start to take some action. In my article, How To Look & Be Better Than Average: An up-Leveling Guide, I discuss a bit more about compartmentalizing. I suggest to read through as ithat article ties in with being a high value, confident woman.
3. She Is Always On Top Of Things: Priorities Set & Met
If you need to make a checklist for priorities or daily routines, please please do so.
Something running low in the house? Make a shopping list & keep your home well stocked before anything actually runs out.
PLAN, PLAN, PLAN. Having a simple calendar is key. Payments will always be made early or on time. The car is well maintained – oil changes, car washes when needed, etc. Dental and medical appointments are scheduled and remembered.
Keep all of this in your calendar. You can purchase a beautiful calendar for a reasonable price just about everywhere. When its pretty, it can make you excited to start using it and to use it more often. Use the calendar on your smart phone if you prefer to go digital.
It can be overwhelming.. especially if we have many obligations and work full time. Try to maintain a sense of organization using the calendar.
I wasn’t blessed with the lovely trait of being organized. It’s something I learned and adapted into my life as I became more of the confident woman I desired to be.
This skill can CHANGE you and your day to day outlook. It also changes how others view you.
People Think: “ How does she have it all together?” That’s what I strive for. People to think this of me. Without me being too stressed out of course.
I read once that “The most successful people are thinkers.” Set some time aside to think. Yes. To think. To make a schedule, to fill a calendar, or to just make a list in general of what you need to achieve.
Then spend some time thinking just how to do it, how to fulfill your needs. “Where can I fit this in? At what time of the day can all these things be competed? When can I have some alone time or relaxation time?”
4. She Questions Everything & Maintains Her Sense Of Self
She Questions Everything.
She has a mind of her own and isn’t afraid to use it. Nor is she afraid to use her voice so long it not be intended to hurt anyone.
Sometimes she won’t even choose sides. She will not let a story affect her, she can hear a story and simply chose to take a side or simply move on and go about her day.
Another’s opinion, although she may appreciate it, will not sway her in deciding something she feels isn’t right or true to her. She receives an idea or opinion, processes it, questions it, and makes an assessment.
Maintaining a sense of self is a critical piece of being a high value and confident woman. It is probably my most favorite of my listed traits of a confident woman in this article.
Why follow the heard if you don’t want to conform? A truly confidant woman will not conform, she maintains to her trueness. If an idea doesn’t feel right, for she is intuitive and appreciates her own nature, she will most definitely question it. Is this true? Is this good for me?
5. She Finds The Value In Criticism
When we evaluate other people’s criticism, it may { or may not } hold value.
Listen to it without letting it have an emotional affect you – perhaps a difficult skill to master, but inner strength is another key to the confident woman.
If you can’t build YOURSELF better from the criticism – then DISCARD it and it has no affect on you anyway.
A co-worker years ago left me a note on my desk on how to get rid of moths. She noticed I had a hole in my basic tank top. I actually tore it with my nail but didn’t repurchase a nice new basic top.
It was kind of a rude gesture, but honestly it opened my eyes and said that gesture said to me, “Hey! Other people really take notice and I should care about my clothing for myself, not just for them.”
Everything we own is a representation of ourselves. How well kept our home is, our car, our clothing. If someone doesn’t care about theses things, do they care for themselves? Would they care for you in anyway? Your feelings, your health? Perhaps it’s just a thought, but these things can say lot.
People can be hurtful, again DISCARD anything hurtful that you can’t build from.
Or.. Let it become fuel. I’ve seen people turn that hurt into a different kind of energy. They turned it into fuel to become successful & fulfill their life.
6. She Has A Sense Of Self Worth And Inner Strength
This ties in perfectly with seeing the value in criticism. There is a strong mentality in the confident woman. It’s a sense of inner strength that allows her to either remain unbothered by an other’s opinion or build from it.
There are times we can get provoked and lose a bit of confidence. Knowing our self worth is the key to building back up or building even greater.
You are worth loving simply because you exist. That’s it. No one else can decide your worth. You are worth and deserving of so much love and all good things. Let it begin with yourself.
Becoming a more confident and bold woman doesn’t mean you must be loud, the star of the show or center of attention. There is a certain boldness that comes with a quiet confidence.
The woman we are assessing is a bold and confident woman who is on top of things, has her priorities straight and is constantly evolving and become a better woman as she sees fit.
Also, a side note; There is much more to confidence than appearance itself, {which I do write about} but I do feel that there is a sense of pride when we feel that we look our best.
There is nothing wrong with a little self improvement as long as we have compassion for ourselves and do it in a healthy manner.
Recap of the traits of a confident woman and how to be a high value woman with confidence:
1. Ever-Evolving
2. Up-Levels Each Compartment of Hers
3. Priorities Set & Met
4. Questionative & Maintains Sense of Self
5. Finds Value in Criticism
6. Self Worth & Inner Strength
How To Be A High Value Woman
Related Articles;
- How To Become A Successful Woman: Getting It Together
- How To Be The Woman You Want To Be: Up-Leveling Success
I discuss more traits and qualities of a high value, confident and also a successful woman. I truly believe we are, as confident women, at our best when we try to be our best. It begins within us, we have to want it.
