This piece was written to provide some insight and ideas on How to Become That Woman & How To Be That Woman.
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What Is “That Girl” : That Woman
The Description of “that girl” or “that woman” differs from person to person. It depends where she is in life, if she’s starting a business, starting a family, starting a new career, getting her finances together or a mixture of all of it and more.
To me personally, that woman is the one who has got it all together or going in that correct direction of putting her life together.
- She’s composed, but assertive.
- She is responsible, but playful.
- She’s financially secure or building herself to that status.
She has a strong sense of self. Other’s critique will only help to enhance her in becoming an even better version of herself.
In my two articles;
- How To Be Confident Woman At Work: How To Maintain Confidence
- Be A Bold Woman: 6 Key Traits Of A Confident Woman
I write about this quality in a confident woman, the ability to use critique to her own advantage.
I built this entire site, The MiniSkirt Files around the idea and the becoming reality of that woman who wants to keep advancing in her life, feel confident and successful, and become a next level woman.
How To Have Je Ne Sais Quoi: A “That Woman” Essential
“But there’s something about her.”
I was watching a TV game show with dozens and dozens of ladies who would hold a briefcase and open it came it their turn to do so. There was one particular woman that struck a chord with the man I was watching this show with.
“She’s not very beautiful, her features aren’t really that “pretty”, but there’s something about her.”
One phrase – a lot to depict. Lets subtract that first part, “she’s not very beautiful” – that’s a subjective statement.
Lo an behold we have “But there’s something about her”
He continued with “She’s got that attitude or a certain presence about her.”
I started to watch her more often, study her a bit. I love figuring people out and getting to know how men think.
My observations about her;
- Slow speaking
- Lowered Voice
- Playfulness
- Calmness About Her
- Confident Presence About Her
She did have nice body, but what he mostly spoke of…was her.
You want that. You want a man to say “There’s just something about her.” Sometimes he can’t even put a finger on it because you create a mirage, an effect. A mesmerizing experience.
To Be The Woman With Je Ne Sais Quoi
Emulate this phrase. In a way true to you.
There are so many qualities that create this;
From appearance, to mannerisms, to the confidence you exude and self assurance you present. I write about it all throughout The MiniSkirt Files in hopes it provides another woman with that spark of confidence.
To have “Je Ne Sais Quoi,” that “little something” about yourself, you must have a strong sense of self. This is how I personally view the quote “Je ne sais quoi,” alongside a woman who presents herself in a true manner, displaying confidence without arrogance, and a passion and zest for; Life, Books, Food, Art, Family…Anything!
Passion. She’s passionate and shares that passion yet still remains a sense of mystique.
- Know Your Strengths
- Value Them. And Value Yourself
- Confidence Without Arrogance
- Passion Ladies. Find That Something.
- Keep A Sense Of Mystery About Yourself
Please Read Tips 4, 5, and 6 in Be A Bold Woman: 6 Key Traits Of A Confident Woman. They further elaborate on maintaining a sense of self, having a strong sense of self-worth, finding the value in criticism and inner strength.
How To Become That Woman: How To Be That Girl
In becoming that woman, there are some steps, some planning that needs to be done. We need a path with ideas and strategies to become her.
Envision Her
This is a key tip. I frequent this tip especially in,
- How To Be The Woman You Want To Be: Up-Leveling Success
- How To Become A Successful Woman: Success, Confidence & Getting It Together
What is that woman to you? What does she wear? How does it feel to be her? Where does she spend her time? What is she learning? What are her skills? What does she eat?
Start to depict the meaning of that woman to you, that admirable woman you desire to be.
Then begin to envision her, be as descriptive as you’d like for it will only bring you closer to becoming her.
Saturate Yourself In The Topic
The topics of taking care of yourself, being a high value woman, self confidence, get to know yourself…Study these things, apply the tips that resonate with you.
Maintain your sense of self in this, as you don’t just want to become someone else or a copy of someone else.
We all have a special little something about us and it’s important to let that glow. Your new research may further ignite your most beautiful qualities.
Become Her By Design
Start to design your plan to becoming that woman.
What does she do? Is she well organized? Has her priorities set straight? An expert at completing goals?
Planning your days out, having a set path for the day is vital.
I once heard a very well known, very wealthy business man state that each day he puts three post-it notes on his mirror. Those notes have written on them three goals for the day.
What a simple yet effective strategy. You can have three goals set for the day, but actually seeing them, physically on the mirror you use each day makes a difference.
The more goals you set, and complete, the more you become that woman. The more you get things together. And the more successful you become.
Let’s take for example, just a few qualities of that woman – She knows how to start her day properly, She is organized with her goals and plans, She is organized and tidy in general.
I can set three small goals for today to become the woman I am envisioning.
- Start today with a healthy breakfast.
- Purchase a calendar today {to become more organized}.
- Clean my purse.
Tomorrow I will clean [ Insert Goal ].
Design Your Goals
What short term goals do you have?
What are your annual goals to achieve this year?
What are the top priorities of the year?
Of the month?
Of the day?
Do you have a theme for the year such as career, finances, health?
Personal relationships? Business relationships?
Where are we improving?
Start thinking more about this. And start to strategize and map out an effective route to achieving these goals and visions.
Health & Looks Are Properly Prioritized
She has adapted to eating well and actually enjoys it. Cravings do not control her but she does indulge if she wants.
Upkeeping her looks is simply second nature. These are no longer chores as she has developed a good routine.
Look More Put Together
Knowing what colors look best on her she has a closet full of complimentary tones that brighten her complexion rather than make her look dull.
She also took some time to carefully build a a proud selection of clothing. Need not it be all extravagant to be “that woman”.
Simple key pieces that can be interchangeable and are of good quality are the foundation of a good wardrobe in this woman’s closet.
I elaborate on tip in my two articles;
Have A Sense Of Preparedness
This can mean so many different things.
It can be anything such as having some savings just to be prepared for any little moments you may need extra money for. Or it can mean being prepared for events or parties and not last minute shopping for things.
Small Example: I always have pretty packaging essentials; cards, stationary, and wrapping paper so I am always prepared come time to give a gift.
I keep a list of what people like and make a not of something they mention in my little notes section of my phone or in the notepad I keep in my purse. This way, I am always ready with ideas come time to gift a friend, a family member or a co-worker.
This is just one facet that creates the charm of “that woman.”
In How To Be A Charming Woman: In Business & In Life, I share a plethora of tips about being a charming woman. To me, charm is an important part of the term and idea of “that woman.”
She Maintains Good Relationships
She remembers birthdays, keeps a secret if need be, and refuses to be disrespected. She addresses manners in a healthy and composed way to resolve them.
She Ever-Evolves
That woman, to me, is ever-evolving. She continues to make herself next level. Always open with an interest in learning. Intelligence is quite sexy, endearing and essential-she knows this.
She indulges in this and will always continue to improve all whilst still loving the woman she already is.
This article was created to provide insight & suggestions on how to become that woman and how to be that woman.
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